Blaine Larsen recorded the song, “How Do You Get That Lonely” in 2004. It is a tribute and dedication to the memory of Lance Emmitt, a young man who took his life. The song is one of the most powerful tunes one can ever hear. However, it has a message in the sadness it conveys. All that’s empowering to somebody that might find themselves in that situation.
“How do you get that lonely? How do you hurt that bad?
To make you make the call that having no life at all is better than the life that you had?”
Jamie Teachenor and Rory Feek asked themselves those questions on the first day the two country songwriters sat down to write with each other.
The session was interrupted by a phone call:
It was Feek’s daughter’s high school, who called with the news that her best friend’s boyfriend, 19-year-old Lance Emmitt, had committed suicide.
In response, the two penned “How Do You Get That Lonely,” a 2004 hit for country singer Blaine Larsen that helped bring comfort to Emmitt’s family and friends, and clarity to others contemplating suicide.
Almost all of us have experienced loneliness at some point. It may be the pain we have felt following a breakup, perhaps the loss of a loved one, or a move away from home. We are vulnerable to the feeling of loneliness at any point in our lives.
One of the best ways to overcome loneliness is to invest your energy in something you care about.
There’s a story of a girl who was given a few months to live. When she started building a rock garden, she ended up living for five years.
We all need to have a purpose – something we are working on – or else our lives are meaningless.
So, next time you find yourself feeling sad and isolated start working on something – any project that makes you excited. You don’t know where it will lead, and how it will help you connect with the world around you. And that is the key to not being lonely.
Blaine Larsen, A Name That Tops the Country Lane
Blaine Larsen is a country music artist based in Nashville, Tennessee. He is known for his rich voice, traditional style, and thoughtful lyrics. He was raised in the Pacific Northwest and fell in love with country music at a young age. Blaine began to perform locally at the age of 14 and by the time he was 18 he signed a recording contract with BNA Records and released his first single, “How Do You Get That Lonely,” which became a top twenty hit on the country charts and catapulted him into the forefront of the music industry.
He went on to release three albums for BNA Records and Treehouse Records between 2004 and 2011. During that time, he garnered eight top-40 singles. Blaine is also known for his ability as a songwriter. He co-wrote George Strait’s hit, “Gotta Get To You,” and has had his songs recorded by Mark Chestnut and Matt Caldwell. He has toured nationally opening shows for Kenny Chesney, Gretchen Wilson, Blake Shelton, Rascal Flatts, Trace Adkins, Little Big Town, Lady Antebellum, Brad Paisley, Dierks Bentley, Alan Jackson, Joe Nicols, Bill Engvall, and many others in venues from barrooms to football stadiums.
Currently, Blaine is a full-time staff member with Search Nashville, a non-profit organization that specializes in creating safe places for people to bring their questions and doubts about God and life.
Here’s Blaine’s most poignant song so far, “How Do You Get That Lonely”. Enjoy watching!
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